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He used to act like a nice guy, then he tried "The Game" technique, all to varying success.
) TWITTER: Young RY Off2Kali's Richard Young talks about the Dating Mind Games that he hates.
Unfortunately I can not assist women in how to actually DEAL with these men, And ladies, today’s lesson is this: By the time you enter a man’s dating life, he already has analyzed what he wants from you, what he definitely does NOT want to be with you and how he is choosing to tackle the difficult issue of whether or not he likes you enough to be with you or keep you around.
Essentially he has made up his mind BEFORE you have even propositioned him with the concept of being in a relationship on how exactly he is choosing to answer that question and if he is going to either Any man that smashes, dates and courts a lot of women, is intelligent enough to know he has to predetermine the long term relationship-potential of any woman he chooses to become involved with because it’s eventually going to become an issue and she’s eventually going to ask him straight up ” So before he asks you out on a date, he already determines how he’s going to answer that question and whether or not he wants to acquiesce to your dating demands.
Not everybody behaves in the same way when their dating autopilot kicks in but some common reactions are to be guarded/withdrawn or to be the person you think your date wants you to be. Mindful Dating is a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Mindfulness practices used to yield a more rewarding dating experience. In simple terms, Mindful Dating teaches us to become more aware of how thoughts affect the way we feel, feelings affect the way we behave and behaviors affect the way we think while dating.
Neither one of these responses is an authentic representation of who you are. We do this while learning to be in the present moment with our date and without changing, controlling or manipulating anything.
With all of the moving pieces and strategy to keep in mind, we are getting lost in the game and forgetting one simple fact…dating is not a competition!
It is about seeing if there is a connection between you and a potential partner. Now, you might be asking yourself, how YOU could possibly be participating in the dating mind games you hate so much.
It is as if you are on automatic pilot because you have been conditioned to behave a specific way in certain situations.
You know, like the way we were conditioned to sit still and be polite in school or church.
So when we start to have anxious thoughts about what our date is thinking, we become closed off because we are feeling vulnerable or we pretend we are totally into Mixed Martial Arts too so we are more likable, we can acknowledge what is happening and respond in a way we can feel good about.